Take care of your marriage and ageing parents, play with your children and always make peace at the end of the day, Pope Francis told Vatican employees and their families.
Try to live out the Year of Mercy every day in the hopes that everyone can “experience the joy of mercy, beginning with your families,” he said during a special audience in the Vatican’s Paul VI hall on December 21.
The Pope continued a tradition he started last year of inviting people who work at the Vatican, along with their family members and loved ones, to receive pre-Christmas greetings. The now-annual meeting follows a longer-held tradition of the Pope meeting with members of the Roman Curia — the Church’s central administrative offices — as well as cardinals living in Rome and members of the papal household.
Pope Francis thanked the Vatican employees, most of them laypeople, for their hard work and dedication, even when carrying out their duties often comes with no recognition or appreciation.
“And while I am thanking you, I want to also ask your forgiveness for the scandals there have been in the Vatican,” he said.
He asked that they pray “for the people involved in these scandals so that those who erred may mend their ways and can end up again on the right path.”
But the most important thing he wanted to tell them, he said, is to take care of their marriage and never take it for granted.
A marriage “is like a plant. It’s not like a cabinet that you put over there, in a room, and dust it every now and then. It’s a living plant, it has to be taken care of every day,” he said.
In fact, the best gift parents can give their children is to show the kids how much they love and care for each other, he said.
Parents should also focus more on doing things together with the kids and worry less about material things, he said.
“Talk to your kids, listen to them, ask them what they think” and play with them. “Dialogue between parents and children is very healthy,” he added.
The Pope also said to make sure the children get to live or spend time with their grandparents.
“Let’s take care of grandparents. Grandparents are so important for families,” especially because of the memories they hold from the past and the wisdom they possess. “Don’t set them aside,” he urged.
Finally, he asked everyone always to make sure that any fights or arguments during the day ended in peace before bedtime.
Couples have to make sure they have made peace and parents need to make sure the kids have made peace with a handshake or a kiss.
“It’s necessary to learn this wisdom of making peace” right away and not let it linger, he said.
“Have you waged war during the day? Is this war still smoldering? Don’t let it become cold because a ‘cold war’ the day after is more dangerous than a ‘hot war.’ Got it? Always make peace at night,” he said.