Marriage must be built on the rock of love not the shifting sands of emotions, Pope Francis told ten thousand engaged couples today.
Greeting them for a special audience in St Peter’s Square today Pope Francis listened to questions from different engaged couples and answered them in turn.
Pope Francis told the young people: “It is important to ask ourselves if it is possible to love one another ‘forever’. Today many people are afraid of making definitive decisions, that affect them for all their lives, because it seems impossible … and this mentality leads many who are preparing for marriage to say, ‘We will stay together for as long as our love lasts’.”
Pope Francis continued: “But what do we mean by ‘love’? A mere emotion, a psycho-physical state? Certainly, if it is just this, it cannot provide the foundation for building something solid. But if instead love is a relationship, then it is a growing reality, and we can also say, by way of example, that it is built in the same way that we build a house. And we build a house together, not alone! … You would not wish to build it on the shifting sands of emotions, but on the rock of true love, the love that comes from God.
“The family is born of this project of love that wishes to grow, as one builds a house that becomes the locus of affection, help, hope and support. Just as God’s love is stable and lasts forever, we want the love on which a family is based to be stable and to last forever. We must not allow ourselves to be conquered by a ‘throwaway culture’. This fear of ‘forever’ is cured by entrusting oneself day by day to the Lord Jesus in a life that becomes a daily spiritual path of common growth, step by step. Because ‘forever’ is not simply a question of duration! A marriage does not succeed just because it lasts; its quality is also important. To stay together and to know how to love each other for ever is the challenge Christian married couples face! … In the Our Father prayer we say, ‘Give us this day our daily bread’. Married couples may also learn to pray, ‘Give us this day our daily love’, teach us to love each other, to care for each other. The more you entrust yourselves to the Lord, the more your love will be ‘for ever’, able to renew itself and to overcome every difficulty”.
Following a question from one of the young couples Pope Francis said that “living together was an art.” He said that couples hwo live together must remember three phrases: ‘thank you,’ ‘please’ and ‘sorry.’
The day was organised by the Pontifical Council for Marriage and Family Life with the theme “The Joy of Yes Forever.”