They say that the book you most need to read finds you when you most need to read it. I’ve had that experience many times, most recently with Heather King’s book, Shirt of Flame: A Year with St Thérèse of Lisieux.
The title of the book is borrowed from TS Eliot’s Four Quartets, where he famously suggests that Love itself, God, is behind the torment we often feel in our fiery desires and that the burning we feel there is an “intolerable shirt of flame”.
King writes this book from a fiery context within her own life: she is a freelance journalist and writer, single, divorced, an alcoholic in recovery, reconciling some darkness in her past, dealing with a paralysing obsession because the man she is in love with will not respond to her, risking the financial stability of a career in law for the insecurity of being a freelance writer, and struggling with the sense of being an outsider to normal family, marriage and community, an orphan at all the banquets of life.
And so she sets off for a year to immerse herself in one of the most intriguing saints of all time, Thérèse of Lisieux, in an attempt is to see whether Thérèse might be a moral and spiritual compass by which to sort out her own life. The result is a powerful, deeply insightful and adult book.
King recognises in Thérèse’s soul, inside the soul of a saint, inside someone who could seemingly give up everything for God, the same fiery desires that she feels within her own soul. King recognises, too, that those fires can either purify or destroy, redeem or torment, turn someone into a great saint or a great sinner.
So she lets Thérèse’s fire shed light on her own fires. And since what is most personal and private inside of us, if revealed, is also the most universal, by revealing her own deep, private struggles her book sheds light on the universal human struggle.
The book is self-revealing but never exhibitionist – a tricky formula that she handles well. For example, she draws on a famous incident in Thérèse’s life when, as a little girl, she was asked by her older sister to pick one thing from a velvet sewing basket full of colour balls. Thérèse said: “I choose all!”, took the entire basket and walked away. King reflects upon her own struggle to, as Kierkegaard said, will the one thing. Here’s the parallel she draws with her own life: “I choose all!” said Thérèse, and the further I progressed, the more I saw that the human dilemma is to want it all. I wanted to be celibate, and I wanted wantonly to give myself to a spouse. I wanted dark secrets, noise, lights, mania, and the stimulation of a city, and I wanted to plant a garden, tend animals, and live on a farm. I wanted to live in the same place all my life, and I wanted to travel every inch of the globe before I died. I wanted to sit utterly still, and I was also driven to be constantly on the move. I wanted to be hidden and anonymous, and I wanted to be famous. I wanted to be close to my family, and I wanted to leave my family behind. I wanted to devote my life to activism, and I wanted to devote my life to contemplation. I wanted to give everything to God, and I didn’t know how! I longed to give my undivided self, and I couldn’t!”
Reflecting on Thérèse’s vow of poverty, King writes: “Poverty is never, never voluntary. Poverty consists precisely in all the ways you absolutely don’t want to be poor.” Drawing on the German poet Gertrud von Le Fort, who wrote that when her soul was most in anguish everything around her in effect said, “But you are nothing!”, Kings writes: “At last someone had told my story. For the last 10 years especially, I had been in anguish and ‘they’ – my husband, the person I loved, the legal profession, the medical profession when I had cancer, the publishing industry – had said in so many words: ‘But you are nothing.’ Everywhere I turned: a blank wall. Everything I had hoped for: ashes. Everything I had worked for: ‘But you are nothing’… One morning in the shower, I wept to Christ: ‘I don’t love you and you don’t love me either!’ ” We’ve all been there.
If you are struggling with faith, with brokenness in your life, with an obsession, with an addiction, with a gnawing sense that your life is not what it should be, with the sense of being the outsider, an orphan at all the banquets of life, and, most of all, with the sense you don’t love Jesus and he doesn’t love you either, that you are nothing, then let this book find you. It’s a book for those who think they might be too sick to be helped by a doctor.
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